They will be so kind and merciful and good, that they
will be a light in the dark for others … (Psalm 112:4 CEV)
I remember when a loved one
of mine found out she had cancer. After the initial shock of hearing such news,
she realized the trauma was just beginning. For now it had to be relived a hundred
more times to family, friends, coworkers, church members, club members, etc.
over and over again. Can you imagine? You have to put on a brave front and say
the words aloud again and again. And as if that isn’t exhausting enough, every
time you meet up with this group or that group, they want an update. Meaning no
harm of course, just showing genuine concern by inquiring, they all ask
individually every time they see you. Now if things are looking up, it’s
probably much easier to share. But what if the prognosis is not good? What if
things aren’t getting better? Does love demand that you be gracious to every
probing question?
I’m just thinking that with
all the holiday gatherings now in full swing, we might want to be more mindful
of those around us going through serious health issues, divorce or loss of a loved
one. Instead of the standard, “How are you, really?” how about just offering
support with a “Keeping you in our prayers.” Or putting the ball in their court
and giving them some control by saying, “Let me know when you’re up for a cup
of coffee. I’m available.” I’m sure they will appreciate that kind of support
and encouragement. I’m sure too, that they will share what they can when they
can. But I think most of all they want to be treated normal. They face the
reality of their affliction day and night. And I just bet they long for the
days when everything was normal. Be that dear friend and given them some normal
for Christmas. Laugh and joke and talk about weather and current events and
grandkids like you do with other friends. And may God bless.
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